Why is generosity so difficult to learn?
Every once in a while I get wondering about myself: Why is generosity so difficult for me?
The Bible says that we are made in the image of God. 1 John 4:8 tells us that God is love, and John 3:16 stresses that God so loved the world that He gave His only Son. Giving is part of the nature of love, and love is part of the nature of God, and we are designed and built in the image of God, so we were designed and built to love and to give. So…why do I have such a tendency to cling to what I have rather than to give like God does? Is it fear? Does it have to do with how far removed my heart is from the likeness of God?
In his book Run with the Horses, Eugene Peterson writes of a lesson that came to him as he watched three young swallows perched on a dead branch that stretched out over a lake while their parents were trying to teach them to fly. He writes,
“One adult swallow got alongside the chicks and started shoving them out toward the end of the branch—pushing, pushing, pushing. The end one fell off. Somewhere between the branch and the water below, the wings started working, and the fledgling was off on his own. Then the second one.
“The third was not to be bullied. At the last possible moment his grip on the branch loosened just enough so that he swung downward, then tightened again, bulldog tenacious. The parent was without sentiment. He pecked at the desperately clinging talons until it was more painful for the poor chick to hang on than risk the insecurities of flying. The grip was released, and the inexperienced wings began pumping. The mature swallow knew what the chick did not—that it would fly—that there was no danger in making it do what it was perfectly designed to do.
“Birds have feet and can walk. Birds have talons and can grasp a branch securely. They can walk; they can cling. But flying is their characteristic action, and not until they fly are they living at their best, gracefully and beautifully.
“Giving is what we do best. It is the air into which we were born. It is the action that was designed into us before our birth…. Some of us try desperately to hold on to ourselves, to live for ourselves. We look so bedraggled and pathetic doing it, hanging on to the dead branch of a bank account for dear life, afraid to risk ourselves on the untried wings of giving. We don’t think we can live generously because we have never tried. But the sooner we start, the better, for we are going to have to give up our lives finally, and the longer we wait, the less time we have for the soaring and swooping life of grace.”